In any community, we encounter a range of opinions and beliefs—some enlightening, some uplifting, and some problematic. Occasionally, a thread surfaces that highlights an underlying issue many of us grapple with yet rarely discuss openly: entitlement, particularly when it intersects with romantic or social dynamics. A recent conversation thread on our page serves as a
Each individual should know what their own boundaries and expectations are with the people they care about, but we often don’t think about these in explicit terms or use explicit language to communicate them. Implied agreements lead to misunderstandings and miscommunications. Direct communication can seem intimidating at first but is very rewarding once you become more comfortable with it.
When people first enter the polyamorous community, the amount of brand new terminology can be intimidating. It’s important, though, because it means learning about concepts that can inform your journey and can help you understand your new polyam friends. Using our terms gives our community the ability to talk about things that are unique to our experiences.
We get a lot of new members in POSH every week, and we’re always glad to see new faces. When new members introduce themselves in our introductions thread, though, we often see something like “I’m new to the lifestyle.”…