We know you love your partner(s)… we love ours too! But when you introduce yourself as or speak as your relationship instead of as an individual, a few things will happen that aren’t ideal. Here are some reasons why people in POSH might advise you to stop doing this.
POSH just finished a weekend camping trip, a cross-group event with our sister group, Polyarmory. While some people ended up unable to come, we had 24 people sign up from across Houston and Austin. A lot of people met for the first time this weekend. It’s possible that that might lead to some first dates,
In polyamory, it’s not just about your multiple partners. Inevitably, if your partners also have other partners, you’re going to have metamours. “Metamour” or “meta” is the term for your partners’ other partners. Metamour relationships can end up being one of the most challenging parts of polyamory. After all, you didn’t choose your metamours but, even if you never meet, you’re sharing someone who’s important to both of you.
Each individual should know what their own boundaries and expectations are with the people they care about, but we often don’t think about these in explicit terms or use explicit language to communicate them. Implied agreements lead to misunderstandings and miscommunications. Direct communication can seem intimidating at first but is very rewarding once you become more comfortable with it.
When people first enter the polyamorous community, the amount of brand new terminology can be intimidating. It’s important, though, because it means learning about concepts that can inform your journey and can help you understand your new polyam friends. Using our terms gives our community the ability to talk about things that are unique to our experiences.
We get a lot of new members in POSH every week, and we’re always glad to see new faces. When new members introduce themselves in our introductions thread, though, we often see something like “I’m new to the lifestyle.”…