We work hard to make sure POSH is both a friendly and welcoming place to newcomers and a safe haven for existing members. We don’t tolerate bad behavior in our membership, especially when it comes to consent violations, but we always give a chance to those who want to learn from mistakes. We are all human.

We’re aiming for…

POSH strives to create a safe and supportive atmosphere for communities that are marginalized elsewhere. To that end, we emphasize creating a group that is

  • Consent Positive
  • SOGI Affirming
  • Intersectional
  • Anti-Racism
  • Anti-Patriarchy
  • Anti-Misogyny
  • Anti-Rape Culture
  • Anti-Ableism
  • Inclusive of neurodiversity
  • Trauma Informed

We respect, support, and believe victims (#metoo).

The rules below apply to our Facebook group, but are a good description of what you can expect in all of our spaces.

1. Read the rules

We delete posts and mute for not reading the pins. We want to help you make a good impression. Reading and following the pinned community guidelines is going to help you do that.

2. Check yourself before you wreck yourself.

Don’t double down on drama. If offered a correction by an admin or moderator, it’s time for you to take a break from the conversation. Violations may result in warning or removal. Don’t Dirty Delete!

3. This is an intersectional, SOGI-affirming space.

We are pro-feminism, anti-patriarchy, anti-racism, anti-misogyny, and anti-rape-culture. We side with victims when reporting harassment, assault, and consent violations. If you don’t know, google it.

4. We are a Consent-Positive space.

Always ask first.We take consent very seriously here. Do not send unsolicited friend requests, messages, or objectifying compliments to anyone in the group if you haven’t asked for consent.

To learn more about how we create a consent-positive space, read Building a Consent-Positive Community.

5. Type “admin” in a comment to notify us of problems

Please report violations and bad behavior by tagging us in this way. If you receive a warning from an admin, it’ll be a gentle correction. Those who take responsibility for themselves are welcome.

6. Respect Everyone’s Privacy.

Being part of this group requires mutual trust. Authentic discussions make groups great, but may be sensitive and private. What’s shared in the group should stay in the group. Even the selfies.

7. Don’t Out Your Friends.

Not everyone is open about being “open” so please don’t refer to polyamory if someone asks “how did you meet Bob?” Through Facebook is a good answer. Others’ relationship status is theirs to disclose.

8. Don’t Spam The Group.

POSH is about community. To promote group-centered activity and stop spam, we delete posts that are about one person or aren’t about polyamory/growing the group. We have set posts for intros, etc.

9. Tag events with (location) at the title’s end.

As a social community-building group, our goal is to meet for face-to-face events. It’s not a dating group, but if your goal is to make connections that might lead to dates, events are a great option.

10. This is a benevolent dictatorship, not a democracy

Admins will always consider input from members for improving the group or dealing with conflict, but in the end, the admin team’s decisions are final.