In any community, we encounter a range of opinions and beliefs—some enlightening, some uplifting, and some problematic. Occasionally, a thread surfaces that highlights an underlying issue many of us grapple with yet rarely discuss openly: entitlement, particularly when it intersects with romantic or social dynamics. A recent conversation thread on our page serves as a
We know you love your partner(s)… we love ours too! But when you introduce yourself as or speak as your relationship instead of as an individual, a few things will happen that aren’t ideal. Here are some reasons why people in POSH might advise you to stop doing this.
In polyamory, it’s not just about your multiple partners. Inevitably, if your partners also have other partners, you’re going to have metamours. “Metamour” or “meta” is the term for your partners’ other partners. Metamour relationships can end up being one of the most challenging parts of polyamory. After all, you didn’t choose your metamours but, even if you never meet, you’re sharing someone who’s important to both of you.
We get a lot of new members in POSH every week, and we’re always glad to see new faces. When new members introduce themselves in our introductions thread, though, we often see something like “I’m new to the lifestyle.”…