When It’s Not a Breakup, But It Still Hurts In polyamory, not all relationship shifts come with a clean break. Sometimes, someone we love goes on a long trip, relocates, changes jobs, or undergoes a life transition that pulls them out of our daily orbit. The connection may not be “over” in the traditional sense,
Let’s chat about a phrase that’s worn out its welcome in Facebook groups—“Delete if not allowed.” If you’ve ever typed delete if not allowed in Facebook groups, it’s okay! You’re not alone. But let’s talk about why it’s time to retire that phrase for good, especially in community-focused spaces like POSH. What You’re Really Saying
Why DMs from men on non-dating platforms feel invasive, much like unsolicited compliments, and why it’s not the same as getting spammed by scammers. The other day, I posted in a neighborhood forum to ask if anyone recognized a stray cat that had taken up residence in my backyard. Within hours, I got a message
Relationships are a delicate dance between connection and independence, a balance that polyamory challenges us to explore in new ways. When we talk about autonomy in polyamory, we’re looking at how individual freedom shapes—and is shaped by—the bonds we share. It’s a journey that requires honesty, self-reflection, and a deep commitment to nurturing both ourselves
Why Polyamory Isn’t the Right Shape for Every Heart Polyamory is a word that brings up different reactions, from curiosity to hesitation, even fear. Some see it as an invitation to explore a broader spectrum of connection, while others wonder how anyone could balance the emotional, logistical, and relational demands of multiple partnerships. At its
In any community, we encounter a range of opinions and beliefs—some enlightening, some uplifting, and some problematic. Occasionally, a thread surfaces that highlights an underlying issue many of us grapple with yet rarely discuss openly: entitlement, particularly when it intersects with romantic or social dynamics. A recent conversation thread on our page serves as a
We know you love your partner(s)… we love ours too! But when you introduce yourself as or speak as your relationship instead of as an individual, a few things will happen that aren’t ideal. Here are some reasons why people in POSH might advise you to stop doing this.
POSH just finished a weekend camping trip, a cross-group event with our sister group, Polyarmory. While some people ended up unable to come, we had 24 people sign up from across Houston and Austin. A lot of people met for the first time this weekend. It’s possible that that might lead to some first dates,
In polyamory, it’s not just about your multiple partners. Inevitably, if your partners also have other partners, you’re going to have metamours. “Metamour” or “meta” is the term for your partners’ other partners. Metamour relationships can end up being one of the most challenging parts of polyamory. After all, you didn’t choose your metamours but, even if you never meet, you’re sharing someone who’s important to both of you.
Each individual should know what their own boundaries and expectations are with the people they care about, but we often don’t think about these in explicit terms or use explicit language to communicate them. Implied agreements lead to misunderstandings and miscommunications. Direct communication can seem intimidating at first but is very rewarding once you become more comfortable with it.