{"id":363,"date":"2025-03-23T01:33:55","date_gmt":"2025-03-23T01:33:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/poshtx.com\/?p=363"},"modified":"2025-03-24T16:48:57","modified_gmt":"2025-03-24T16:48:57","slug":"unsolicited-compliments","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/poshtx.com\/index.php\/2025\/03\/23\/unsolicited-compliments\/","title":{"rendered":"Unsolicited Compliments Aren\u2019t Harmless\u2014They\u2019re Boundary Violations"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Why DMs from men on non-dating platforms feel invasive, much like unsolicited compliments, and why it’s not the same as getting spammed by scammers<\/em>.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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The other day, I posted in a neighborhood forum to ask if anyone recognized a stray cat that had taken up residence in my backyard. Within hours, I got a message from a man I didn\u2019t know:
“Hello Tabby gd morning ur a beautiful woman. This unsolicited compliment was unwarranted and made me uncomfortable.”<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This wasn\u2019t the first time. And I\u2019m not alone. Many women experience the same thing: a post about something totally neutral\u2014pets, local events, community concerns\u2014followed by a private message from a man whose only goal is to comment on her appearance with unsolicited compliments.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s uncomfortable. It\u2019s invasive. And it\u2019s a pattern that needs to be talked about.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n

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